OK, I’ll admit it, I chose this change image because it’s seasonal. But change is often scary, and the thing that’s hardest to change is our minds.I’ve spent decades trying to figure out why in modern media anything with magick or ghosts is categorized as horror. My working theory is that when you are comfortable with your world, and someone challenges you to accept something that doesn’t fit into the way you think the world works, that throws everything you know into question. You feel that “well, if THAT’s real, maybe other things I don’t believe in are real too!” It can make someone feel as if the foundation of the world is not firm. It makes your assumptions false, your world unstable, and insecure.
This is why it’s so great to find a place (like CTCW) where you can talk to others who have seen the same realities and you can talk to them without fear of disbelief or ridicule. No one is going to think you’re crazy. No one is going to think you’re stupid just because you believe in things pooh poohed by the mainstream. In our experience, most people have had these experiences, seen things, heard things, smelled things, felt things,… but didn’t talk about them for fear of being rejected by friends and family. It is so liberating and relaxing to be able to share one’s experiences with others who are ready to listen and believe.
My husband used to say “Pain is your friend, it tells you when you’ve done something stupid.” My way of looking at it is that pain is your body shouting. Your body sends you messages with sensations: you need to eat, no- don’t eat that! you need to drink, you need to empty your bladder, you need to move or your leg will fall asleep, there’s something sticking into you- move back. Most of these things are noticed below the level of perception, but if we ignore them, the message gets stronger and becomes pain. Whether physical or emotional, when something is hurting you the message is that you need to change something. Learning to avoid pain is smart, but learning to listen before things gets painful is wise. Staying in a painful situation is almost always going to damage you more than trying to get away. Don’t let fear of unknown dangers keep you from avoiding the ones that are already manifesting.
Did you ever flip a coin to make a decision and then when head or tails came up, you discovered that you really didn’t want that option? I’ve often used that technique to discover if I were hiding my own preferences from myself.
Some folks say you shouldn’t WANT things. If you don’t want anything, you’ll never be disappointed if you don’t have it, you’ll never want what someone else has. There is a problem with wanting something without having done anything to earn it, sometimes. You can follow the line of thinking to work out when it’s OK, and when it isn’t. If you take something someone else worked for when you didn’t, that’s not good. If someone gives you something because they want you to be happy and getting it makes you happy, that makes them happy, so that’s good. It’s OK to want, to admire, to appreciate beautiful, wonderful things. Better than that, if you want something, whether a bike, or a video game, or a car, or the ability to make your own decisions, that wanting, that longing for something you don’t have yet may help motivate you to doing the things you need to do to get it. You may want to fit into that dress without the seams straining, and want it more than you want those cookies. You may want to read that book enough that you stay home when others are headed for a night out- or you may want to have friends around you more than you want to read the book. One of the most important skills you can learn is to know what you want, and how much you want it. Sometimes you may have to lead yourself through a string of questions to figure out your options and test the strength of you wanting.
Don’t assume that any wanting is greed. You may be wanting someone to love you and you love. You may want money- but what you WANT is to know that you have earned that money. (Be careful not to set the intention for a wretched job because of an unexamined belief that if you don’t suffer for it, you didn’t work hard for it. Be careful, you may have picked up some really odd and untrue beliefs before you even knew you were learning them.)
Change can be very good, and your intentions- your wants- will direct them. Accept that what you want may be what is going to bring you fulfillment, and learn to embrace that energy as a way to overcome the fear of reaching for it. Fear isn’t automatically bad. Fear of being hurt keeps us safe. But want isn’t automatically bad either. Accept them as signs that help you find your way to your best life.
If you missed the live show, here’s the link to the archive!
Wednesday night, 12-6-2017, Tchipakkan will be talking to Amy Wilson, proprietor of Other Worldly Waxes about our emotions and how we use them in making magick.
Wednesday night Tchipakkan will be talking to Amy Wilson, proprietor of Other Worldly Waxes about our emotions
In these stressful times, sometimes it’s hard to not get afraid about the things we can’t control. Amy has worked to figure out how to make our unwanted emotions work for rather than against us. We will be talking about how our fear based emotions guide us through our lives to teach and transform us into enlightened beings. She will discuss how to recognize these emotions and learn how to transform them into positive experiences.
Amy C Wilson is a celebrated Spiritual Medium and Psychometrist who has worked with and read for individuals and missing person cases. She has been a practitioner of the Magickal Arts and has worked in various New York City occult stores for over 25 years specializing in healing others through Candle Magick.
Amy holds Round Tables every month to discuss various life topics from a metaphysical perspective and how to transmute our energy into positive reflections into our outer reality. Amy also is the voice behind the Reluctant Spiritualist which she created to help other’s become more conscious of thought patterns that are holding them back from their fullest potential.
We’d love you to call in with questions or comments: 619-639-4606 (live only).
If you can’t make the live show 8-9- and have a question or comment, please feel free to write me a message and I’ll read it on the air.
Want to listen later? Live Paranormal.com archives its shows by date, and I archive them by date, guest, and topic on my website: http://tchipakkan.wordpress.com/the-new-normal/directory-of-podcasts/
Hope you can join us tomorrow night from 8-9 at the New Normal. http://liveparanormal.com/