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Need to be Needed

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Certainly a girl doesn’t need to be nothing more than an accessory to someone who sees her as a sign of success, not as a person. When you are in a real relationship, both parties do begin to need each other, if not for survival, for quality of life. Someone who makes you feel your best self, and brings out your best qualities is a keeper!

As we think about needs, we recognize that some of our needs are emotional and spiritual, not just simply what we need to survive. I look at it like the RDA (Recommended Daily Allowance) of vitamins. This is amounts of each of the nutrients they knew about during WWII that were required to keep soldiers (male, young, fairly healthy) from showing symptoms of deficiency diseases. (More recently they’ve been checking to see where these requirements may differ for women or other groups.) But note that this is the level where if the subject didn’t get that daily amount, they began to manifest symptoms of disease. So this is NOT what you need to be healthy, if that’s what you are getting, you are walking on the fine line above showing symptoms of disease. They’ve never been able to figure out what we need to be optimally healthy, probably because it varies from person to person and what they are doing at the time.

When you think about your emotional needs, do you think about the need to be needed? They have discovered that older people in “homes” are much healthier when they have pets. Not only do the pets show them affection, having someone to care for gives the person who has had almost all agency removed a reason to look outward. An infant naturally needs someone to care for it for several years, and gives parents or caregivers an awareness that they are keeping the baby alive and (we hope) happy.

Some people have a distrust of “needs” that may come from having seen the interaction between a dependent and whoever is taking care of them abused. The parent-child relationship is a beautiful thing, so is a loving couple making each other’s lives better. “Paying it forward” is the natural way to keeping the species alive.

What we want to avoid is any relationship where the balance of power is off not naturally, as in the case of an infant, but unnaturally- such as in a culture where men and women (or other groups within the population) are given different levels of self determination. In the musical Oliver (source of this picture and quote), Nancy was both dependent because women didn’t have the options for financially supporting themselves, and also because her boyfriend, Bill, used violence to keep her with him.

In this case, Nancy, and those like her, convince themselves that their abusers need them because otherwise awareness that she’s contributing to her own abuse would hurt her more. We do have a need to be needed. We need to feel that there is something we are accomplishing in the world more than just eating, sleeping, and breathing. When Oliver’s needs from Nancy exceeded Bill’s imagined needs, Nancy was able to break away from her unhealthy fantasy. When a parent gradually leads his child to become more independent until he no longer physically needs his parent, but maintains the relationship for the emotional and spiritual benefits, that’s good parenting.

The theme this year is need, so as we examine that, let’s also let’s look at our relationship with the “Weird”. While I’m comfortable asserting that we should look at supernatural phenomena more closely, open to the possibility it’s real, that doesn’t mean that we should ditch our critical thinking skills. It’s exciting to learn new things, we mustn’t get dependent on these activities. Dowsing is a wonderful tool, but you shouldn’t use it to make all your decisions for you.* Keeping a dream journal can help you remember and understand your dreams, but if you are spending over an hour a day on it, you can probably cut back to an hour. If you’re a medium, unless you have some people who’ll pay to watch you do it, you probably shouldn’t be spending so much time talking to spirits that you are missing work. As with any activity, don’t go overboard. Don’t let it interfere with relationships between you and your family and friends. Don’t let it interfere with work, or adversely impact your health. Don’t let any system or group make decisions for you. Somethings we need to do regularly- like breathing. Doing anything successfully is going to make you feel good. But don’t become dependent upon any single source of satisfaction. You haven’t always done it, you won’t always be doing it, it’s just one of many good things in your life, but only one. Do what you need to do for you.

*Don’t ask “Should I take this vitamin?” ask “Will I be significantly healthier if I take this vitamin”. Taking it is your decision, dowsing can tell you if it’s going to have a subtle effect you can’t predict.

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Speaker Spotlight: Maryalyce Merrit

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MAryalyce Merrit“She changes everything she touches and everything she touches changes”

Maryalyce is a mainstay of the CTCW conference. For several years she has taught Reiki II and III, but this year we’ve asked her to pass on that so she can show some of her other skills. This year her classes will be Angel Allies, Rock my World! (crystals), Good Vibrations (sound healing), and Tea Therapy. (Do follow the links to find out more about those.)

Besides that she’s also running the Healing Room, where folks can go to give and receive healing, or just get away from all that’s going on and absorb (digest?) everything they’ve taken in so far. She’s also brought her stock from her healing center: Akasha’s Journey where you’ll be able to buy crystals, divination tools like pendulums or rune sets, get an aura phBearoto taken, or get a “fuzz therapy” fix. Maryalyce travels with Bear, her service dog, a rescue Bouvier des Flandres, a really charming boy although sometimes shy. Maryalyce is an advocate for both healing animals and helping rescue those who need homes.

Maryalyce (aka Akasha’s Heart on facebook) has been practicing witchcraft and the magickal arts since 1994.  She is an ordained minister, priestess, ritualist, writer, teacher, and healer.  She is a member of the Hands On Trade Association, is a Reiki Master Instructor and Practitioner, Advanced Level IET Practitioner, Run Valdr Instructor and Practitioner, and teacher of such things like reading Tarot and Medicine Cards, Introduction to Wicca, Introduction to Witchcraft, Witch-Crafting (making magickal tools), How to Organize/Construct/Lead Rituals, and others.  With her passion for just about all things esoteric, metaphysical, astrological, and deeply spiritual, she decided to follow her soul’s journey to feed, educate, and empower the world community.  This may be in the form of oracle readings for seekers, healing sessions, healing circles, or Reiki instruction among others.  As a dog lover, she extends this healing to not only dogs, but other animals and familiars as well.  Maryalyce is an ABCDT Certified Dog Trainer, and she and her rescued dog, Bear, are a registered Delta Society Pet Partner therapy team.  Akasha’s Journey has evolved from the same passion for magickal living and Akasha's Journey shelvescrafting tools and items for people and their pets to assist them on their own journeys.  Part of Maryalyce’s dream is to make healing & learning how to heal accessible to the community and the people who truly desire it, and of course, the beautiful animals who cannot ask for it themselves.
Come visit me and begin your transformation.  The joy is in the journey.  www.akashasjourney.com

Previous years

2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, and 2014

Reiki II, Reiki III, as well as Open Healing/ Healing Practice sessions

as well as Advanced Masters Workshop 2011

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Listen to Speakers on the New Normal: Maryalyce Merrit

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Please join Tchipakkan and Maryalyce on the New Normal 8 pm Wednesday, 9-2-15, 8-9 p.m. est.Cody and MaryAlyce

Maryalyce Merrit (Akasha’s Heart on fb) joins Tchipakkan this week on the podcast The New Normal. (Link to archived podcast click here)
When you get two such voraciously curious and enthusiastic practitioners as Tchipakkan and Maryalyce together, there’s no telling what we’ll talk about. We’ll probably mention her workshops at the con: Good Vibrations: healing with sound energy, Rock My world (about Crystals), Tea Therapy for Chackra Balancing, Angelic Allies, from there we may go on to talk about some upcoming classes she’s doing down at her healing center Akasha’s Journey in Wassaic NY Apple lore and Magick, The Wisdom of Crystal Skulls, Embracing your Path with Persephone, Honey Magick, Crafting Scrying Mirrors, Communicating with our Ancestors, even past lives,… and I’ve just turned her on to a new healing technique: Dynamind. We will just be having lots of fun.

Feel free to call in if you have any questions or comments on any of these topics (or if you think we might not get to the one you were hoping to hear about). 619-639-4606

“She changes everything she touches and everything she touches changes”

Maryalyce (aka Akasha’s Heart) has been practicing witchcraft and the magickal arts since 1994.  She is an ordained minister, priestess, ritualist, writer, teacher, and healer.  She is a member of the Hands On Trade Association, is a Reiki Master Instructor and Practitioner, Advanced Level IET Practitioner, RúnValdr Master (Instructor and Practitioner), and teacher of such things like reading Tarot and Medicine Cards, Introduction to Wicca, Introduction to Witchcraft, Witch-Crafting (making magickal tools), How to Organize/Construct/Lead Rituals, and others.  With her passion for just about all things esoteric, metaphysical, astrological, and deeply spiritual, she decided to follow her soul’s journey to feed, educate, and empower the world community.

This empowerment may come in the form of oracle readings for seekers, healing sessions, healing circles, or Reiki instruction among others.  As a dog lover, she extends this healing to not only dogs, but other animals and familiars as well.  Maryalyce is an ABCDT Certified Dog Trainer, and she and her rescued dog, Cody, are a registered Delta Society Pet Partner therapy team.  Akasha’s Journey has evolved from the same passion for magickal living and crafting tools and items for people and their pets to assist them on their own journeys.  Part of Maryalyce’s dream is to make healing & learning how to heal accessible to the community and the people who truly desire it, and of course, the beautiful animals who cannot ask for it themselves.
The joy is in the journey.  www.akashasjourney.com

Please call in with any stories or questions: 619-639-4606

To listen live: open a window on your computer to www.Liveparanormal.com, sign in, and click on Shows, and the New Normal to listen. To listen later at your convenience, they’re organized by date, topic and guest on Tchipakkan.com .

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