Many cultures speak of invisible lines that connect us with everyone and everything we have touched in our life (this is what allows psychometry to work), the more contact, the greater amount of energy that connects the person and the object. With two living beings (I’m not sure there still aren’t lines that might reach across the dimensions even if someone is dead) the energy flows through these channels between you and them. This can be greatly supportive when the energy feeds you. But the strands of the web of wyrd, or Ika strands (or whatever you call them) that connect us do not judge- energy flows both ways. When the other person is not psychically well, his or her energy can carry problems to you, just as pathogens can be carried in a physical exchange of blood or bodily fluids.

We are often told to cut ties to those whose energy makes us ill, or drain our energy. When we love someone, sometimes our energy helps them in time of need, and other times their energy sustains us when we have expended all of ours. This is a beautiful exchange.

If someone in your life is draining your energy, or making you ill, it’s time to cut the strands between you, so the draining or poisoning can stop. It’s hard for the people who want to help others to resist pouring out their own energy into someone who is low on it. (Reiki is a wonderful technique since it draws energy from the universal ki, not the practitioner.) However, some of those who we pour into are damaged: their auras or energy fields have holes that allow their energy to leak away. You can keep pouring your energy in, but it’s like pouring water into a sieve. You can empty yourself- which will make you ill- and still not fill them. A shamanic or other practitioner who knows how to heal these holes needs to fix it for them- and that has to be their choice. Your choice is simpler. Don’t give anyone an energy “transfusion” until the energetic “bleeding” has been stopped. Care for yourself as well as them. This is a fairly frequently given piece of advice, often given by friends, but you have to realize it for yourself.

I like this poster because it also looks at the other aspect of our connection to others via the great energy web. Some threads may need to be cut, but you can’t hang by one or two threads and support your part of the tapestry. We need lots of connections, and you should make sure that you have the ones you need. There are people you should have in your life, and that advice is not often given. As with water, energy needs to flow to be healthy, and if you only have a couple of strands, the loss of one might be crippling. The energy exchange with other beings nourishes your energy. Our culture tells us that we should have a mate, a love partner, and sometimes we feel it instinctively and yearn for it like air or water.

The whole foolish business of love spells is based on filling that need. But it’s not only romantic love, we also need friends and family, we need mentors, we need someone to pass our hard won knowledge on to, we need contact with nature and the land, with non-human beings. With many lines carrying energy to and from others, if one breaks, others will sustain us until new relationships are created. As with properly designed love spells, we should not try to force someone to be the object of our affection, but use our magick, our manifestation, our will, to make ourselves ready for love, make the environment supportive to the relationships we need.
Hang a ‘Help Wanted’ sign in your mind, and let the universe know that you are eager to make connection to other people you need to make your life better. Make yourself ready and open to these new attachments that will feed you, and bring new and positive energy into your life, and with whom an exchange of energy will be mutually beneficial. Don’t forget that not only are there connections that should be cut for your own energetic health, there are also connections that nourish you as well. If you don’t have them, create them.