What do you do if your dead relatives are assholes? Well, hopefully it’s not all of them. If you need a familial intermediary, you go back another generation or you go to the next closer relative. But… sometimes that jackenape of a relative is meant to work with you… that, is where it gets tricky… because they are a byproduct of their lifetime, they have baggage and biases etc. it may be that you and (s)he have synergistic issues, and you need to deal with your problem to heal him, or vice versa. Our families, living and dead, are not unmixed blessings, but they are a great resource. Let’s talk techniques for coming to terms with when family pushes buttons.