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You need to ask for help

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Asking for help is hard for some of us, but whether you need help from a person, or from the Universe, you need to actually ask for help if you need it. We are familiar with praying for help, but sometimes we don’t do it. We may not feel worthy of help, someone else needs it more, or sometimes we just don’t think of it, we don’t want to create a debt we can’t pay…. There are reasons we don’t ask for help, but we should make sure that the reasons are good, not simply ‘programmed’ by some training in our past that isn’t valid anymore.

Unless we are talking about little babies, most people are hesitant to step in and do something you may want to do for yourself, to ‘steal’ your autonomy. (Others are happy to do it and don’t even think about it.) Chances are that you would prefer to help yourself in most instances. But sometimes, even if you can manage whatever you are doing by yourself, it’s simply more efficient and effective to ask for help. There is no shame it recognizing that somethings will be done faster, or better with more than one working on it. Sometimes others have resources, tools, abilities, or information you don’t have (non-humans often are in this category). With humans there’s a lot of variation in how readily an individual will jump to help another, dictated by their personality and upbringing. It’s easier to know what to expect if you speak the same language, and share cultural expectations.

In metaphysics, there seems to be some mechanism in place to reduce interaction between “planes”. Over the years many of us have seen that gods, spirits, the Universe… whatever is out there, actually requires someone asking before they are able to give you the help you need. It seems to be a natural law that They (whoever they are) can’t intervene until we actually ask for help. Sometimes we can feel them waiting to jump in with a tweak to your luck, or the weather, or a psychic piece of information you need. But it doesn’t happen until you actually ASK. Let them help you.

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Do we know what we need?

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When the movie Aladdin came out my kids came up with a game they played at recess with their friends. One person would be the “genie”, all the other kids were the “wishers”. The goal for the wishers was to come up with a wish that the genie couldn’t mess up (without getting too longwinded), and the goal for the genie was to come up with a way of giving them exactly what they asked for- in such a way that it would make them miserable.

Once I heard about it, I have been telling all the magick users I know that this is a great training practice, because magick has a tendency (like computers) to do what you asked for, rather than what you THOUGHT you asked. You have to look at all the possibilities, and figure out all the ways a working might go wrong before you actually set the energy working.

I cannot stress too strongly how we need to be both imaginative and precise when we are dealing with “changing the universe through our will”. This is also a big part of divination- learning to ask the right question to get the response, the information you need to get. We need to know what we need before we can ask for it.

Another way some of us deal with this issue is to place it into the control of a “higher power”: angels, gods, one’s higher self, some entity who is supposed to have both more information, and our best interests in heart. This is usually done by those who feel that it is the higher powers who are the source of energy for what we are doing. When you have turned control over to the Divine, you may not need to know what what you need: “This or something better, for the greatest good for all” is a frequent ending when we are requesting divine help so that we don’t accidentally hurt someone because we didn’t anticipate that result.

We hope that those who we are asking for help don’t feel put-upon, like Genie in the Disney movie. I will point out that while it makes sense to ask help from someone who has the ability to do whatever it is, that it’s not a good idea to simply look up which ever god, angel, saint, loa, or whatever and ask them to power our working. Do you ask for help from strangers walking past your house to carry your boxes when you’re moving? No, you ask your friends- good friends. So create your relationship with divine beings strong first, before you ask them for help (feel free to give them “pizza and beer” after, or whatever they prefer). It depends on your relationship- if if the one helping you is far more powerful, show appreciation in the way you’d show it to a parent or patron. You’ve created a relationship, which implies an exchange, perhaps not equal, but mutually acceptable. I don’t know any supernatural helpers that like are someone you look up on Craig’s list you can pay to “do a job” for you.

Bottom line: while we may or may not “need to know what we need” (depending upon whether we are getting help or not), I think it’s clear that we frequently don’t know what we need. But we can figure it out- with a lot of work, and a little divination.

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